3 Reasons Men Love the Chase, But Not the Relationship

It’s all too familiar situation for many of us — that guy who’s blowing up your phone, planning elaborate dates, and seems completely obsessed with you… until you actually start dating. Then suddenly he’s “busy” or “needs space” or whatever excuse these kinds of men are coming up with these days.

I’ve been there too, and after conversations with countless friends, here are some reasons why some guys seem to love the excitement of pursuing you, but get weird once they actually “have” you.

1. The Dopamine Rush of Uncertainty

So here’s the tea: when a man is chasing you, his brain is literally getting high on the possibility of winning you over.

Think about it like this — remember when you couldn’t stop checking your phone to see if that cute guy from chemistry class had texted back? That fluttery, excited feeling where you’re half-nervous, half-thrilled?

Men get that too! Their brains are flooding with dopamine — basically, nature’s feel-good drug — every time you respond to a text or agree to another date.

The catch? Once you’re officially together, that chemical rush starts to fade. Not because you’re any less amazing, but because the uncertainty is gone. It’s like the difference between wondering what…