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7 Signs a Man Is Getting Ready to Waste Your Time
He’s not confusing. He’s consistent — at being unclear.
We’ve all had that moment — sitting there wondering if you’re overthinking… or if he’s just under-delivering.
Most men don’t waste your time accidentally. They do it subtly, through a pattern of low-effort behaviors that leave you confused but hopeful.
Here are 7 signs a man is about to waste your time — so you can walk away before the damage is done.
1. He Says He “Wants to See Where It Goes”
Sounds open-minded, right? Nope. That phrase is a commitment deflection in disguise. A man who knows what he wants doesn’t need the disclaimer — he moves with clarity and direction.
Translation: “I don’t want to define this, but I’m cool if you keep investing in me.”
2. His Effort Is Inconsistent — But You’re Always Understanding
One week he’s planning dates and calling you every night. The next? Radio silence and dry texts. And somehow, you’re the one making excuses for it.
Inconsistency is not a mystery. It’s a message: “You are not my priority.”
3. He Checks In, But Never Follows Through
“Let’s hang soon,” “We should do something this weekend.” But there’s never a real plan, just vibes and vanishing acts.
This isn’t flakiness. This is breadcrumbing — keeping you on standby with just enough attention to maintain your interest.
4. He Talks About the Future — But Never Includes You In It
Pay attention to how he speaks about his life, goals, or even his weekend. Does he use “I” or “we”? Is he vague or inclusive?
If he never mentally places you in his future, it’s because he doesn’t actually see you in it.
