How to Become the Prize In a Relationship

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A friend of mine used to have a crush on this guy. She was cool with his brother and truly wanted to date the man. However, although her crush had seen her around, he never asked her out. I’m not sure he even spoke to her casually at all. She wanted to date him. She asked me what I thought. I told her not to do it. She asked others what they thought. They told her why not go ahead and approach him? After all, you’re a modern woman and we are not in the stone ages, so what do you have to lose? If only men were that simple. Men value what they work hard for. Women are not any different. This perspective only applies if you want to be regarded as the prize in any potential relationship.

What defines “the prize”?

The prize is typically defined as the person who has options. They have an intrinsic sense of self-worth and standards that they believe will be met. Therefore, they have no problem holding out for what they truly want. The prize in a relationship has options and several potential partners competing for his or her attention. They have a healthy sense of self-worth, understand their value and are confident that anyone would be fortunate to secure a relationship with them. More importantly, other people recognize the value in a “prize” and as a result are fine with pursuing the prize.